Tuesday 15 November 2016

Guest Post: The Key to a Fabulous Life by Amanda Akalonu

Hey Fabulous,

People's definition of a fabulous woman vary. Some define her as the woman with the most expensive piece of jewellery or designer shoes, who walks like the world is her runway. Others say she is the lady who rocks social media with her picture-perfect face. While there is nothing wrong with the above women, I would hate to limit them to the definition of a fabulous woman.

So, who is a fabulous woman?

A fabulous woman is that lady who unquestioningly believes that she is amazing. She looks herself in the mirror and sees the most beautiful creature in the universe. This woman is not afraid to be herself and own her story because she knows that's where her strength lies. A fabulous woman loves herself unconditionally and is willing to be a blessing to others. Whether she shops at Versace or the thrift store, whether she rocks Louboutins or 'nameless' flip-flops, this woman walks like the, the universe, belongs to her - fearlessly, gracefully and authentically.

Most women go through life feeling 'good-for-nothing'. Some have even been told (directly or indirectly) that the only value she can offer is her vagina (and, by the way, she is not the only human who owns one!) Over the years, I have watched with a sickened stomach at how much women look for validation in all the wrong places and forget the only place that truly matters: deep within yourself.

I cannot begin to tell you how amazing you are. I cannot begin to tell you the wonders that will unveil before you once you start to see yourself with new eyes. Girl, you are a one-of-a-kind creature for which there s no comparison...see yourself as such!

I truly believe every woman can be fabulous. As a matter of fact, I dare say that 'fabulous' lies inside every woman just waiting to be unleashed. 


My answer: BE YOURSELF! 

'What? Really, Amanda? Be myself? Not walk sexy or dress sexy?' This is usually the response I get when sharing this with a woman for the first time, to which I always reply, 'yes, girl, be yourself!' I know it sounds boring, but it is one of the most exciting and fulfilling things you could ever do. Today we live in a world where authenticity is rare. Everyone is trying to be like someone else and we have totally forgotten who we really are.

Authenticity, which is being the totality of who you are unapologetically, is your visa to a more fabulous life. It is the daring adventure of living your life from the 'inside out', not the other way round. This is fulfilling. It is liberating and it is magical. Trust me, I know. I used to hate my life. I constantly compared myself to others and tried to be someone else and it sucked the very life out of me. One day I realised: I AM ENOUGH! I am magnificent and fabulous and will NEVER apologise for being who I am. I learnt to embrace this girl called Amanda Akalonu and made the radical decision to be the totality of who I am. The journey has been an exciting adventure and I have risen to heights I never thought possible and, girl, the view from here is amazing. 

Today I ask you this question: Who are you? The real you, and not the you that you want others to see. If you don't know her, don't be afraid to look for her, and when you find her, become all of her... unapologetically.

With authenticity and fabulousness,


About Amanda Akalonu 

Amanda Akalonu is an author, women's lifestyle entrepreneur, teacher and speaker. She is passionate about women’s personal development and has dedicated her life’s work to it. Beginning at the tender age of 14 in 2006, Amanda has helped hundreds of women to break the bars in their lives and rise up to their higher selves. Her mission is simple: To Inspire a Woman to Unleash her Fabulous.

Her latest book: LIVE YOUR MOST FABULOUS LIFE, 30 simple steps to increase your confidence, is available now.

Are you ready to unleash your fabulous? Let me know in the comments below! 

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